He has hurt you deeply. You don’t know if you can ever forgive him, yet there he stands.
“Please forgive me. I swear it will never happen again.”
You’re confused. You believe God wants you to forgive this person, but every fiber of your being screams, “Don’t trust him!” You have heard those words before.
Do not confuse forgiveness with trust. Undeserved forgiveness makes you look like Jesus. Unearned trust makes you look like a fool. You are called to forgive without condition. You are never called to trust without reason. Trust is based on a man’s character, but forgiveness is based on God’s character.
Trust takes years to build and seconds to lose. The reality of human existence is that you can never fully know what is in another person’s heart. Each of us is capable of deception. But you can know what is in God’s heart and he alone can be completely trusted.
The word, “trust”, appears 89 times in the bible. Never is it used to encourage trust in people. Just the opposite, God very clearly states that He is the only one who can be trusted fully.
Without a hint of guilt, look into your offender’s eyes and say, “I love you, I forgive you, but I will need time to trust you.”
5 Do not trust a neighbor;
put no confidence in a friend.
Even with her who lies in your embrace
be careful of your words.
6 For a son dishonors his father,
a daughter rises up against her mother,
a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law ó
a man's enemies are the members of his own household.
7 But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord ,
I wait for God my Savior;
my God will hear me.
1 Cor 4:2
2 Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.
5 But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your salvation.
6 I will sing to the Lord ,
for he has been good to me.